This blog post was originally published in 2015, the last Queermance sadly. I was keen to be part of this each year, but even as I looked forward to the event in 2016, it was cancelled and hasn't been resurrected. I'm still promoting it as it talks about genre and at the time, two of …
Dreaming up a Gay Angel
One evening a friend asked me about my writing. I talked about my surprise at how my gay angel character, Guy, seemed to win many readers’ hearts. And as the night flowed with much conversation and wine, I had an epiphany. You see, back in the mid-80s when I moved to Sydney,... I met a …
Friendship or a Threesome?
I was twenty-two when I left my family and moved to Sydney, looking forward to the new adventures a major city could bring. And one day I met this guy. How I met him is not important... ...what he wanted from me, was. He was inviting me home to meet his boyfriend for a threesome. So, what does …
Being Put On The Spot
I’m one of the lucky ones. I have been in a loving relationship with my man for the past twenty-eight years. We have argued, made up, faced dramas and shared dreams. In Australia we’re a multi-cultural couple. I’m a white fella, and he’s a black fella. And it was his suggestion I write this post. Kevin and …
Thanks to the Straight Man
This is my newest love letter. A love letter to the modern straight man. In decades past I hid my sexuality, somehow making my homo nature painfully evident the more I tried. I freaked out when I'd meet a 'manly man' who still had a limited view of the world. Yet it was me who chose not to …
The Couples Curse: The Remote Control
I have a saying about my long term relationship: Warren taught me to cook and I taught him the importance of having a proper Hi-Fi system in the house. And as a couple, we are mad about movies, music and entertaining, so both go hand in hand. But over the years, the few remote controls that sat in the …
Where do you sit on the Camp Scale?
There's a game they play. My partner and a close friend of ours sit around and recite the names of b-grade actresses. The rest of us listen dumbfounded, having no idea who these women are. And it's not a challenge that goes by quickly. They have been known to go for hours naming these forgotten …
Gay Men – Seeing ourselves on screen
I think there's a revolution in the way we, as gay men, allow ourselves to be seen. And it's a media fuelled revolution that has gradually 'snuck up on us' since the last century. The self discipline 'straight acting' model is fading in Western society, and the pressure to be an 'acceptable gay' has disappeared …
Gay Angels
About ten years ago I read Elizabeth Knox’s original novel, The Vintner’s Luck. In it a failed wine maker and family man, Sorban, meets a male angel who he develops a relationship with, over a considerable period of his life. They talk, they make love, and they talk some more. Of course, other stuff happens …
The Misguided Pope
I’ve been meaning to write this post for a little while now, so please excuse me for reporting on old news. Just before France brought in marriage equality, New Zealand did as well. Although I heard about it on an evening radio program on Triple J, it was this speech that most of you have …
