Thirty years ago, a charming man cooked me dinner. He had this unique recipe for lasagne which included eggs, ham and a home-made vegetarian sauce. He also baked a vegetarian cake with grated zucchini, carrot and cheese. These were his specialities and all I could offer in return was nachos. But it wasn't a paint by …
Let’s Raise a Glass
Earlier this year I met a woman on vacation from The Netherlands. She sidled up to me sipping champagne at a book launch we were both at. We said the usual things two perfect strangers making small talk say at a social event. You know, where she’d been before she ended up in Sydney? Who …
I Love You
About seven years ago my partner commented on the way my family ended our phone conversations . Of course we say 'bye' or 'see you soon', but we also say 'I love you' before hitting the 'end call' button. So it was around this time we decided to say these three magic words to our …
Out of my league
This blog was written when 'out of my league' was starting to be heard in conversations here in Australia. I found it disturbing. I'm glad since it's subsided. Seriously? Out of my league. When did this become a thing? I know this was a very funny movie about a decade ago, but to now include …
Queermance
This blog post was originally published in 2015, the last Queermance sadly. I was keen to be part of this each year, but even as I looked forward to the event in 2016, it was cancelled and hasn't been resurrected. I'm still promoting it as it talks about genre and at the time, two of …
The ‘Love At First Sight’ Myth
Let me start by saying I actually believe in 'love at first sight'. I just think its named wrong. 'At first sight' implies it's a visual thing. And writers and film-makers keep perpetuating this myth by having our romantic heroes fall for the physical attributes of their intended lover. Too often it's all about the …
5 Tips for Staying in Love
This year my partner and I will clock up twenty-eight years together. And although the anniversary of when we met will arrive six months before the date we became a couple, it highlights the fact that love should never be rushed. Take time to fall in love. Don't go shopping for it. For it will tap you on the …
Friendship or a Threesome?
I was twenty-two when I left my family and moved to Sydney, looking forward to the new adventures a major city could bring. And one day I met this guy. How I met him is not important... ...what he wanted from me, was. He was inviting me home to meet his boyfriend for a threesome. So, what does …
Being Put On The Spot
I’m one of the lucky ones. I have been in a loving relationship with my man for the past twenty-eight years. We have argued, made up, faced dramas and shared dreams. In Australia we’re a multi-cultural couple. I’m a white fella, and he’s a black fella. And it was his suggestion I write this post. Kevin and …
The Couples Curse: The Remote Control
I have a saying about my long term relationship: Warren taught me to cook and I taught him the importance of having a proper Hi-Fi system in the house. And as a couple, we are mad about movies, music and entertaining, so both go hand in hand. But over the years, the few remote controls that sat in the …
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